Sometimes, the desire to be chosen can convince us to settle for less than we were created for. But God’s plan for you has always been one rooted in abundance — not in fleeting attention, but in deep, sustaining love. If you’re standing at the edge of a relationship, or holding space for something you’re not sure you deserve to hope for, this is for you. These are not ultimatums or rigid expectations — they are reminders. Reminders of what God sees in you. Reminders of the kind of love he longs to give you. Reminders to wait.
You were not created to beg for the bare minimum.
God did not knit you together with care only to watch you cling to the kind of love that is hollow. You are not meant to earn affection in a way that exhausts your heart. The almost love, the love that makes you feel like you’re asking for too much, that your depth is something to water down — that is not the kind of love that mirrors God’s heart. Remember — the person who will truly care for you in the way God intended, will recognize the weight of your spirit and handle it with gentleness. They will honor the kind of human being you are. They will protect the heart within your chest. That is the kind of love God desires for you — not scarcity, not survival, but fullness.
Peace is not too much to ask for.
Sometimes we mistake chaos for chemistry. We learn to tolerate tension, to adapt to uncertainty, and we call it passion, we become addicted to our attachments. But the presence of God does not move through confusion — it moves through clarity. Before you settle, ask yourself — does this bring you peace, or does it disturb the stillness God has worked so hard to build in you? You are not asking for too much when you ask for a calm love. You are not asking for too much when you seek stability. You are allowed to protect your peace like it is sacred — because to God, it is.
Loneliness is not a reason to betray yourself.
God sees the nights you wish you had someone to hold, someone to call your own. He hears the ache in your heart, he empathizes with your prayers for closeness. But he also knows that a love that requires you to abandon your values just to feel momentarily seen is not a love worth keeping, is not a love worth fighting for. God is not withholding connection to hurt you — he is holding space for something holy. The pain is real, yes, but so is his promise. Don’t trade lasting joy for temporary relief. Don’t ever forget that you are waiting within reason.
You are allowed to want more — and God wants more for you, too.
Not in the external way the world defines “more,” but in the way heaven defines enough. Enough kindness to soften you. Enough strength to support you. Enough trust to rest in. Before you settle, ask yourself — does this relationship reflect the love God gives, or does it ask you to turn away from the person he has called you to be? You don’t need to justify your desire for a love that aligns with your spirit. God is the one who placed that desire there, knowing that you had the conviction to listen to it.
You are already worthy — even if it hasn’t found you yet.
Waiting doesn’t mean you are broken, or unworthy of something soft. Waiting means that you are listening. It means that you are learning how to walk away from what is almost right, in order to make room for what is truly meant for you. You don’t need a relationship to affirm your value. God already did that the moment he breathed life into you, the moment he chose you. You are loved. You are held. You are becoming. And when what you’re seeking does arrive, you will know it by the way it doesn’t ask you to settle for anything less than who you truly are.
