Not every complicated relationship or situationship needs a second chance. Sometimes, what we call waiting on God or Divine Timing is actually avoiding what we already know deep down, that it’s time to let go.
Here are 4 birth months who need to let go instead of holding on too long, loving too hard or waiting for the second, third or fourth chance.
February
You fall in love with potential, time and time again. You see the best in people and believe that with time, they will grow and evolve to be the person you always knew they could be, not always the reality of who they are right now. You keep telling yourself that maybe in a few months, they will come around and appreciate your warmth, love and kindness, but how many years have you lost waiting for people to become their potential?
The truth is God doesn’t want you to keep chasing illusions and putting others on a pedestal while neglecting yourself. You deserve someone to love you just as much as you love them right now, not in some unforeseen future, waiting for a version of them they may never live up to.
May
You’re loyal to a fault. Once you commit to someone, you don’t give up no matter how many times they let you down or how many red flags you’ve seen. You hate breaking promises even if it’s breaking you. You want to always be remembered as the person who fought hard for the ones you love, but you have to understand that you can’t fight alone, you need the other person to fight for you too.
The truth is betraying yourself to save someone else isn’t loyalty, it’s self-abandonment. It’s time to reflect on who really appreciates your loyalty and who takes it for granted.
September
You can’t fix people, but somehow you keep taking on projects that are broken beyond repair. You try to help them out, you problem-solve, you try to figure out why they are the way they are and how you can make it work. You want them to see your light and rescue them from their own mess, but not everyone wants to change.
The truth is people will only change when they’re ready, not because you are ready to do the work for them. Sometimes, letting go is the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself because trying too hard to fix others might end up breaking you.
December
You forgive too easily and too quickly, and you forget too. You believe in unconditional love and how it can overcome anything, and that’s why you keep forgiving, giving sixth chances and holding space for people to return to you. It’s a beautiful thing to be the one people can’t forget and always return to, but forgiving without boundaries becomes an opportunity for people to hurt you again because you keep allowing them.
The truth is, forgiveness is strength, but you can forgive someone without taking them back, especially if they keep proving to you that they’re not worth your time or your love.
