Breakups are brutal. They don’t just mess with your head and your heart; they can shake your faith too. They can make you question why God wants you to suffer or why he keeps sending you the wrong people over and over again. They’re brutal because we prayed for them. We thought God led us into them. We may have even thought they were the one. So when the relationship falls apart, it can feel like God did too.
And when you convince yourself that it’s all part of a bigger plan, that things fall apart so better things can fall together, that the wrong ones leave for the right ones to come in, it can feel like you’re only numbing the pain. You’re lying to yourself so you don’t face the real anger and agony inside of you. But here’s the truth: God’s gift to you isn’t in the relationship working out; it’s in how he carries you when it doesn’t.
Heartbreak has a way of revealing who we are and who we can be. It’s all part of his connection with you. It’s how you eventually find strength, resilience or comfort in solitude. It’s how you eventually learn the importance of self-love and finding your independence. You begin to hear your voice again, to walk a path that’s fully yours, free from the weight of external expectations.
In time, you’ll look back and see that this wasn’t just a chapter of loss, it was a turning point. God wasn’t punishing you when he removed someone you loved from your life; he just wasn’t done teaching you what you needed to learn. Because we learn the most from the people who broke our hearts. We learn how to be more cautious. We learn how to pick better partners. We learn how we want to be loved. We learn that we can survive on our own, even without the people we said we couldn’t live without.
And maybe that’s the point of all of this, that even when your most desired relationships didn’t last, you did. You’re still here, still breathing, still believing, still learning how to love again and still praying for the one.
Trusting God again after heartbreak isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about having faith in the journey he laid out for you. It’s trusting that even if the next relationship doesn’t last, you will. And that somehow, even through the detours and disappointments, your love story is still being written, beautifully, magically and in a way that you never imagined.
